Stop pretending everything’s fine while clearly avoiding people

It’s immature, it’s avoidant, and honestly, it’s kind of pathetic.

I’ve experienced this more times than I should have:
someone changes their behavior — suddenly, drastically — and pretends like nothing’s different. No context, no explanation, no conversation. Just distance.

One day, the tone is friendly, normal, familiar.
And then, out of nowhere, it’s cold. Dry. Off.
Longer response times. Short, vague messages. Low effort. Weird energy.

You ask what’s going on.
“Everything’s fine.”
Right.

Sometimes you get an excuse that kind of makes sense — for a second — but doesn’t hold up. Most of the time, they’ll say it’s nothing. And then they continue acting like they clearly don’t want to talk to you.

Blocking is the grand finale

The ending is almost always the same:
You’re blocked. Silently. On everything.

Snapchat. Instagram. WhatsApp. Whatever platforms are left.
Gone. Without a word. No goodbye, no explanation, not even the basic decency of closure.

It doesn’t matter whether it happens all at once or slowly over days or weeks — the result is the same. You’re cut off and left to figure out what the hell just happened.

It’s not mysterious. It’s just childish.

What amazes me is how often these people avoid saying what’s on their mind — while pretending to be the type of person who “values honesty” and “wants clear communication.”

They’ll say those things until it’s inconvenient.
And the moment they’d actually need to be direct, they vanish.

What’s so hard about saying “I’ve lost interest” or “This isn’t working for me”?
It takes 10 seconds to send a message like that.
It takes zero maturity to block someone and pretend the whole thing never happened.

The irony is real

The people who disappear like this are often the same ones who say things like:
“I wish people would just be honest with me.”
or
“I hate when people ghost.”
Yet when it’s their turn? Suddenly, silence is fine.

“You wouldn’t want to be treated like this either — so why do it to someone else?”

But let’s be honest — if someone treated them the same way, they’d probably call it rude or hurtful.
And they’d be right.
So what makes them think it’s okay when they do it?

I know I didn’t do anything wrong

Every time this happens, I go over everything in my head.
And every time, I come to the same conclusion: I didn’t do anything wrong.

If I had said or done something that truly bothered them, they could have told me.
That’s how grown-up communication works. You say it. You talk about it.
If no one says anything, I can’t fix anything — and honestly, I’m not the problem.

“If you don’t say what’s wrong, don’t expect anyone to read your silence like a script.”

They created the issue, and they chose not to deal with it.

Final thought

If you don’t want to talk to someone anymore, just say it. If something bothered you, bring it up.
But don’t pretend nothing has changed when you’ve clearly already checked out.

And please — stop hiding behind silence, blocks, and fake excuses.
It’s not deep. It’s just immature.